For the ones who suffer the ones who get up and go

Recently too many things are piling up on my really small brain all the times. Not that I mind the pileup. If not pleasant, it makes some one else lighter and I am happy that I am the one who is burdened with all this. I am happy that I can share the sadness and I disappear promptly when there is happiness. Since it is in sadness that some one needs you the most and rarely when one is happy.
Separation can be painful for both the partners. Especially when you see that all the dreams that you has seen with the person will never materialize, not in this life. Some times it is just not possible to be with a person. It can be an emotional torture for the person who is more into it. Separation is the delayed cremation to a relationship that is dead long time ago and when all revival attempts both natural and artificial have been exhausted. What can you do? Can you really leave and go ahead just like that? Without even looking once behind. Few people can manage the feat. Tears become like your friends. But at some point even they leave you. The only medicine is time. That’s what they all say. But is it? Is it so easy to do just a shift+delete to all the memories, the time we spent with this person who once upon a time was the most special person in your life? Never. What can we just do is pray and pray…that at some point you can get out of the whole fiasco and just move ahead. Never tempted to glance behind. A change of scene usually helps. Where everything’s new for you to paint new memories then.
Wish I could eraze the dregs and bring you back to where you were before
The next thing that always chews my head. Is that relationship that has always been from time immemorial defamed and for the right reasons? I am seeing the examples every now and then. There are few of my closed ones who are daily going through that torture. A seemingly hard person can be seen crying by the barbed and comments that actually break you. Who gives the other person a right to hit on you? Give generic, careless and hurting comments? Blame game having no bounds and give curses. Why? Only because that person has achieved a feat and managing everything that the jealous never could??? Who gave ms jealous to remove the nooks, to show the gaps. Is thy name perfectionism? Maybe the person may have worked in a particular way, achieved a feat that took years to complete and become a master. Can an apprentice be the same as the master? Is it only an expectation of perfection, a thing to do in a particular way or just plain jealousy that the apprentice has managed to pick up a feat for which the master has taken years to accomplish?
From the perfectionism viewpoint. Not every one has the same viewpoint. Why even try to impose ideas to others? Suggestion is on hand ok, on the other hand constant suggestions only amount to nagging. if a person is a small child still understood, but if the person is a grown up, constant nagging (or suggestion giving) helps rarely, it fact it makes the person almost antagonistic towards you. Please keep the suggestions to thy self and give them only when asked. Free things rarely have a value. Even if one seems to be perfect in some aspects, one may not be able to handle other aspects correctly. That which the other person is managing efficiently. The situations also matter. The amount of time in hand also matters. The more time you have the more perfect you can be. Look at the situation too. Maybe if one is not doing a thing in a particular manner and few shortcuts used by other person may seem unnecessary for others. But for the other person they are really important. In short what one expects other person to do, Do it yourself and just shut up. All persons are made with different brains and respect god’s wish .and when help required, it will surely be asked for.
Wish I could speak for you. Wish I could fight for you. If not anything besides hearing at least do some tit for tat only for you
About jealousy: sorry nothing can be done here. The person needs to improve himself.
What is left in my hand is just pray and pray for the suffering souls, hoping they will find some shade in the whole embroilment
These and such thoughts which have taken ages to collate have finally found themselves in a proper order.
Hope to find many answers to answer all and if not at least god give me strength to be silent